My Story
For a long time, I thought I needed to get on top of my own mind. To feel calmer, more in control, more like myself again. And in many ways, I knew what to do. I’d read the books, tried the techniques, understood the patterns. But no matter what I tried, the relief never lasted. I would have moments where things felt lighter, clearer… and then, without really knowing how, I’d find myself right back inside the same thinking again. Going over things, replaying, trying to figure it out. And what made it harder was this quiet thought in the background: “Why am I still here with this?”
What I didn’t see at the time was that I was trying to solve it from inside the very thing creating it. I was taking my thoughts seriously, personally. And when something felt real, I stayed with it, trying to get to the bottom of it - not realising that the more I engaged with it, the more real it would feel.
The shift for me wasn’t learning how to think better. It was seeing something I hadn’t seen before. That it only felt true because I was believing it. That changed everything. Not overnight, not dramatically, but in a way that made it harder and harder to get pulled in the same way again. The thoughts didn’t disappear, but they stopped meaning what they used to.
I trained with Dr Amy Johnson, whose work points to something very simple and very easy to overlook - that we all have an innate capacity for clarity and wellbeing, without needing to force or fix anything. That understanding deepened what I had already begun to see for myself.
I now share this work through my coaching practice, The Missing Peace, as well as through my podcast, my wellbeing radio show, and on Insight Timer, where these conversations continue in a different way.